Inside: Trusting the promises of God when we’re used to a world full of disappointment
“Promises are made to be broken.”
How often do we hear statements like that? In this world, “guarantee” is just another word. And “promise” is laced with the anticipation of disappointment. It’s something our battered and bruised hopes have gotten used to.
So when we hear about “promises” from God, we can’t help but get a little skeptical. And if they take a while to manifest, that dejected feeling starts building up down in the pit of our stomachs.
Take heart, friend. I want to share part of my story with you today in the hopes that encourages you and reminds us all of God’s faithfulness.
It makes me feel a little vulnerable. But I’ve seen His goodness. And I just can’t keep it to myself.
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A Piece of My Testimony
Back in 2014, my life was… different.
My family was crumbling before my eyes, and there was nothing I could do to stop it. My two oldest children (at that time, my ONLY children) were both under the age of two, and I wanted more than anything to be a valued wife and perfect mom. Of course, I always came up short. But I was desperate for answers on how to change our lives.
I grew up in church, but my faith was shaky. Intimate time with Jesus wasn’t exactly at the top of my priority list, and I didn’t crack open my Bible very often. I did occasionally turn K-LOVE on the radio, and when I did, I often heard messages from Proverbs 31 Ministries and wondered about the scripture that inspired their name.
One day after folding some laundry, I decided to look it up and give it a try. I cracked open the pages of my very gently-used Bible and began to read. As I did, the tears started flowing and wouldn’t stop.
If you’re not familiar with Proverbs 31, you can read it here.
Why was I crying? Especially these tears. I was reading about this highly valued woman full of wisdom who seemed like the perfect wife and mom, but I wasn’t discouraged. These weren’t hopeless tears.
Instead, I felt as though this was my answer. I wished to be highly valued. I wished to be a better wife and mom. I was reading these words that were resounding with something deep in my spirit that I couldn’t explain. In that moment, God was enveloping me in a warm hug of reassurance, and He was preparing me for what was about to happen. (SPOILER ALERT: The end of life as I knew it was eminent.)
I thought He was giving me an answer. If I could be like this woman, I could save my marriage; my life would look like hers. But instead He was giving me a promise.
For more on that experience and what God has revealed to me about that passage since, check out my Heart of a Woman devotional.
A month later, my marriage was over. Absolutely heartbroken and lost, I went back home and began the healing process. And that’s where the real story begins.
But God Wasn’t Finished
I’m going to take a minute to brag on God and His faithfulness. Guys, I know we hear about it all the time. But may we never grow tired of hearing it.
He. Is. Good.
And His glory is evident in my transformation.
I was so hopeless. In my own eyes, the sum of my identity was wrapped in all my shortcomings and pain. I was a woman whose first marriage was toxic and ended in disaster. Who had 2 young children and no real skills since she’d dropped out of college. Who was unlovable and unwanted. I thought I was worthless and had no purpose in this world. Truly. Worthless.
I went to bed sobbing 80% of the time and drunk the other 20% (when my kids were with their dad).
I was searching. Grasping. Barely breathing.
He picked me up and dusted me off. He taught me about my true identity as His daughter. Who I am in Him. Because of Him. For Him. He gave me a hope and a future. And suddenly my world wasn’t dark anymore but was flooded more and more with light every day.
And sure, there are obvious ways my life has changed.
I’ve been so blessed with a loving husband who lifts me up and is quick to brag on me to others (even when I don’t deserve it). My children know the Lord and His goodness. I have FOUR of them now, by the way. ♥ And I’m able to stay home with them, something that fills my mommy heart to overflowing. But that’s just what you can see on the outside.
If you could see my soul, you’d see healing from depression. You’d see God quieting every insecurity that I used to hold in my heart. You’d see that where there were once cracks, God has filled me. That I’m able to love and trust even though I worried I’d end up bitter and angry. You’d see purity where I once felt dirty. Joy where there was shame. And strength, forged and fortified by my King.
I could go on and on about the ways He’s blessed me. The deep places where He’s filled me. The incredible and relentless way He loves me.
He made a promise to me. And wow, did He see it through!
Trust in the Lord, Our God
Why am I telling you all this? Because it’s important that we all realize:
- God wants to speak to each one of us on a personal level,
- He sees the end as well as the beginning, so He knows what we’re up against before we ever know it’s coming,
- He gives us the strength to overcome any obstacle on the way to His promises, and
- He is faithful to finish what He starts!
…And you know in all your hearts and in all your souls that not one thing has failed of all the good things which the Lord your God spoke concerning you. All have come to pass for you; not one word of them has failed.
Joshua 23:14 (NKJV)
Because of this unfailing truth, we know whatever the Lord speaks to us–whether it be Scriptural or something spoken personally to our spirits–it’s reality.
When God makes a promise, His people don’t have to work to make it happen themselves. If His promises were anything we could bring about on our own, how would God’s glory be revealed in them?
All we can do is quiet our hearts before the truth that He can do all things! And His promises are given freely. Just because we’re His.
It’s the same as the righteousness He gives freely when we rest on what Jesus did. In fact, righteousness was the first promise made to us. Once we’ve accepted righteousness from Jesus through the Holy Spirit, all of these other promises are added as a bonus and a testimony to His goodness.
The First Promise: Righteousness
Like I said, righteousness is freely given to us when we accept what Jesus did to bring our spirits to life in Him. Out of deep and unfathomable love, God created a way for us all to become heirs who inherit not only righteousness but every other good thing that can be found in Him.
And Jesus wasn’t plan B. He was the ONLY plan from the start. God knew it all along, yet He gave the promise of Jesus to Abraham.
Did the promise make it more real? No. It just gave Abraham a glimpse of the glory that was going to unfold. His future wasn’t all blue skies and sunshine. There would be obstacles. But Abraham had a promise to hold on to.
A Hope and a Future
When God placed Proverbs 31 on my heart as an image of what my future life would look like, He already knew who my husband would be. He knew the change that would take place in the lives of my children. He saw my worth, even though I was blind to it at the time, and He called me more precious than rubies. (That line still makes me cry!)
And for the storm I was about to pass through, He graciously extended His knowledge to give me a promise that I could hold onto in the darkness. This was always the plan. Looking back and seeing the truth behind His words to me that day only strengthens my faith in Him. He’s trustworthy. His promises aren’t made to be broken.
Is there a promise that God has laid on your heart? Are you waiting to see it fulfilled?
…He who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ.
Philippians 1:6 (NKJV)
He’s not finished with us yet. There will continually be better and better things revealed in us as He takes us from one level of glory to the next. God didn’t bring you this far to leave you. Have faith, and hold onto that promise because the best is yet to come!
Until next time,
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