So you’re here because your kid is driving you nutso bananas, and you just can’t take it anymore. Maybe they’re super hyperactive. Maybe they’ve been really defiant today. Or maybe your patience has just started to wear thin.
I feel that.
All Jokes Aside…
While it’s something that we often joke about, don’t think I’m taking it lightly. Being a mother is a job that can so easily deplete everything you have, and it’s the one job you can never quit (not that you’d even want to). There’s also a lot of mom guilt that can come with that. You love your kids. You don’t want to feel so frustrated with them that you could blow a gasket. You just want a solution. But for now, you’ll even settle for a few ways to just keep your head above water and make it through the day with some sanity.
First, I want to say this:
Give yourself some mercy and grace.
The fact that you’re searching out answers proves that you’re one awesome momma and deserve to be told so. Everyone has bad days, weeks, or even months. Sometimes just surviving the hard days with kids is an accomplishment. No judgment here!
For long-term help with mommy anger, check out this ↑ post!
Now for the good stuff…
7 tips to help get you through the day:
1) Have a mommy pause. This one may seem obvious, and you’ve probably already been doing it. But in case you haven’t or in case you feel like you need permission to do so: Go lock yourself in the bathroom or your room for a minute and just pause. Take some deep breaths. Shake it out. Scream into your pillow if you need to. But get to a space where you can let your emotions out too.
You can even have your child go to their room too. Don’t frame it as a punishment, though, or it’ll probably just turn into a tantrum fest. You could say that mommy needs a mental health minute to get her emotions out and teach them to do the same. Not only will it give you a little break, but it will show them its okay to work through your emotions.Sometimes moms just need a mental health minute. Taking one will not only help you, but will also teach your child the importance of tending to their emotional needs.Click To Tweet
2) Be prepared with Bible verses you can stand on. I really can’t say this enough. Without the Word of God, I would probably be the crankiest, most hopeless mother on the face of the Earth. I know there are great mothers out there who don’t believe at all. And it’s not that God makes everything in my life perfect. But just to have Him on my side, living in and through me, and giving me daily wisdom and encouragement… it’s the air I breathe. If you don’t know Him and have the peace that comes from a relationship with Him but you want to know more, I’d love to talk to you. Shoot me an email at email@example.com.
Want to know one of the verses that encourages me as a mom? Isaiah 41:13. There’s just something about the promise that He’s always there to help me, no matter the situation. Print and hang this in a place where you’ll see it daily:
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3) Give your confidence and mental health a boost. I don’t know if you saw my recent post about overcoming negative self-talk, but if you haven’t, I highly recommend you go check it out. It’s hard to pour from an empty cup. If we have lots of negative thoughts about ourselves, we can start to change them by changing the way we talk about ourselves daily. To get the printable from my Speak it to Change it Challenge and change the way you see yourself as a person and a mother, use this box to subscribe! ↓↓↓ (P.S. if you used the other box to subscribe, you won’t receive this challenge automatically. You have to opt-in to each one separately!)
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4) Switch the pace of the day. Turn on music and dance with the kids. Play a quick game of hide and seek with them. Break out the nerf guns and turn into ninja mom. Or do something that you won’t have to regulate (and that lets them make a mess and/or get their wiggles out). Some ideas:
- Go outside and let them play with a water table. Don’t have one? You can get this inexpensive one from Amazon
or do a make-shift one with water and a few toys in a bin. The link I added goes to the same water table my kids have, and they’re OBSESSED with it. Hours of entertainment for just a little $$$
- Speaking of bins… make a simple sensory bin, and let them have at it. (There are tons of ideas on Pinterest! Just search “sensory bin.”)
- If you feel like you can trust your kids with play-doh, put them at the table or spread out spread out some paper. Then do something that will restore your peace while they’re busy.
- My kids LOVE wooden puzzles like the ones from Melissa and Doug. No, this isn’t an activity that lets them be crazy, but it may keep them occupied and give you a moment to breathe!
5) Have them do some heavy work activities that promote calmness and focus. I wrote a post on this that you can find here. ↓
Heavy work activities have been a huge game-changer in our house.
6) Diffuse some calming essential oils. It may seem simple, but for our house, it can really help. 1) Essential oils are the bomb dot com and 2) there’s a wee bit of a placebo effect too. My kids love when I use essential oils. So when I tell them I’m using one to help us all feel more calm, they automatically start to calm down. Try it. You may be pleasantly surprised.
7) Cuddle it out. It may be the last thing you feel like doing when you’re kiddo is pushing your buttons. And this may not work for everyone. Maybe your little one doesn’t even like cuddling. But it always seems to help my kids (and me) when I pause after an argument, take a deep breath, get down on their level and hug it out. It actually has some really amazing health benefits. Cuddling:
♥ Lowers anxiety and stress while encouraging calmness
♥ Improves circulation as well as pulmonary & immune functions
♥ Helps their sleeping patterns
♥ Lessens physical and emotional discomfort
♥ Has positive effects on the brain.
Give these a try and let me know how they go! What have you found helps you get through hard days with your kids?
Until next time,
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