I Can’t Protect My Kids from Heartbreak (and Why I’m Okay with That)

Protect my Kids from Heartbreak
“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”
Psalm 147:3 (NKJV)

I Can't Protect my Kids from Heartbreak, and That's OkayYesterday that verse came to me, and I decided to tweet it. Today, God used it in a pertinent situation in my life. And the way He explains things is so beautiful, I just couldn’t help but share.

I was praying over a situation with one of my children. I’m always so worried for their little hearts. I know what it’s like to hurt, and like any other parent on the planet, I don’t want that for them. I try to minimize their pain as best I can.

But the reality is, they’re going to get hurt. No matter what ways I try to protect my kids from heartbreak, they’re living in this imperfect world just like the rest of us. Here, disappointment and heartache is a reality. We have a perfect home, but we’re not there yet. While we’re here, we’re going to get some battle scars.

He Binds Up Their Wounds

God gave us that verse to give us comfort.

While I was praying, He brought it back to my mind. And He said, “I bind up their wounds.” Emphasis on the word “I.”

See, He doesn’t use gauze and tape. Or stitches. Or surgical glue. He binds up our wounds. He Himself goes into every crack and crevice. Every fracture and fills it with Him, holding all of our pieces together and making us whole.

Kintsugi for the Soul

A picture came to my mind. Of a cup.

Have you ever heard of kintsugi?

In Japan, when a bowl or cup or plate breaks, instead of just throwing it away, they’ll often fix it with gold. So not only is the break repaired, but it becomes a work of art. Because to the Japanese, the break is just a part of the object’s history that makes it more beautiful.

Protect my Kids from Heartbreak

And that’s what I saw. Sure we all break, but He binds our wounds. He’s what holds us together and makes us purposeful again. He doesn’t come in and take away all of those things that happen along life’s journey. He doesn’t erase our past. He turns the breaks in our soul into something of beauty. A flash of gold in His already beautiful masterpiece.

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Living in Them

Now does this make me eager to have my children upset and disappointed by this life on Earth? Not exactly.

But the flaws and shattered places in their lives make more room for Jesus to come in and live life with them. Don’t get me wrong, we always have His fullness within us. But we have a tendency to quiet Him when we don’t realize how much we need Him.

I’ve been a Christian since I was a little girl. I loved Jesus. But I didn’t understand how intimate and how deep His love for me was until I was at my darkest. It was when I couldn’t have just picked myself back up. When He gave me promises and spoke to me in a way that was unshakable. When He brought other people into my life that somehow knew exactly the words to speak to my heart even though I didn’t tell them what was going on (thank you, Holy Spirit).

That’s when I realized He was the very air I was breathing.

I Can't Protect my Kids from Heartbreak

Did the pain that took place before all that suck? Yeah. But it was kind of like when you’ve been underwater for a long time and then finally make it back to the surface. When that first breath of air fills your lungs, oxygen spreads to your deprived cells. And you’re suddenly aware of just how alive you are.

Living Through Them

But even more than just being in them, it gives Him more space to come in and show Himself through them.

It reminds me of the verse:

Each time he said, “My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.” So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me.
‭‭2 Corinthians‬ ‭12:9‬ ‭(NLT‬‬)

Yeah, we’re all a little broken. We’ve all gone through some stuff. We’ve all done some stuff. And my kids won’t be the exception to that.

But that also gives room for God’s grace and power to come into their lives and show off. Then they can be the ones speaking into someone else, pulling them out of their darkness. He’s going to make all the mess into something beautiful.

[click_to_tweet tweet=”All of our imperfection gives room for God’s grace and power to come into our lives and show off. https://plantingvineyards.com/protect-my-kids-from-heartbreak/” quote=”All of our imperfection gives room for God’s grace and power to come into our lives and show off. “]

Which reminds me of a different tweet of mine from a few days ago…

He has made everything beautiful in it’s time..
Ecclesiastes 3:11 (NKJV)
How awesomely good and loving is He to place those verses on the forefront of my heart right before I was about to need them?

I can’t protect my kids from heartbreak, but here’s what I CAN do…

I can trust God. We can trust Him with our kids, guys. Which I know is hard. Those are our babies! But they were His first, and as crazy as it is to think about, He loves them even more than we do.

So, no. Protecting them from ever being heartbroken or disappointed isn’t an option. But that’s okay. Because God is the master of coming in and making beauty out of the mess.

Until next time,

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